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How to describe Chronic Illness using Spoon Theory

Spoon Theory? Have you ever heard of it?

I hadn’t until my 20 something daughter texts me to say she was going to take a nap so she can conserve her spoons.

My son and I both replied “spoons? lol”

Later she texts back to tell us to look up Spoon Theory. If you have a chronic illness, auto-immune illness, autism, anxiety, depression, chronic fatigue syndrome, and MORE understanding the spoon theory can help others understand your illness and the effect it can have on your life that others take for granted. For instance, not able to make it through the day with the energy that you have, something people that don’t have a chronic illness rarely have a problem with. They have an abundance of energy and don’t think about conserving their energy to get things done throughout the day.

The person that came up with this theory has Lupus. Her friend wanted to know even though she had been to doctors appts. and drove her around for errands. She was shocked that her friend didn’t understand how she felt every day. They were at a restaurant and she just grabbed spoons and gave them to her. She said now let’s talk about your day. She started to take her spoons away after each activity. Her friend was disappointed. Her friend wanted to keep the spoons but she said NO! I didn’t have a choice with my health and now you don’t have a choice with your spoons!

If you want to read about it more you can read it here

Let’s say you have a thyroid condition with depression and anxiety (like me). You are given 12 spoons a day to spend on each activity that you do throughout your day.

You wake up and get out of bed could cost you 1 spoon.

Taking a shower: washing your body and hair, putting on lotion after the shower, AND getting dressed could cost you 2-3 spoons. I usually skip blow drying my hair and makeup. It will take away more spoons.

Now you are down to 10 spoons. Next is eating breakfast and taking your medicine.

That’s another 2 spoons.

My cat needs to be played with as well. And fed. I have to take him outside as well. He visits his (our) neighbors. I follow him around the back yards. I’m hoping everyone has their curtains closed and not see us so I don’t have to talk to them. That takes energy from me as well. Not that I don’t love talking to my neighbors, it’s just on certain days that I didn’t sleep well it’s tiring to stand there and talk. That could cost me 3 spoons!

Now I am down to 5 spoons and it’s not even noon yet! This is when you start planning your day out for the rest of the 5 spoons. Do I have a frozen meal for dinner that I can put in the oven before my hubby gets home from work? What about laundry? Folding and putting the laundry away. What other chores that I have to do or can I put off for the next day?

Now you are down to 8 spoons. Luckily for me, I work from my home office and I can sit and meditate and gain back some energy. In the article, her friend gets down to her last spoon. They discuss making dinner and crashing, or order take out which you don’t have the energy to drive to go get it? Her friend says to make soup and call it a day. She is then left with zero spoons. None. Zilch.

Some days may be better than other days. It also depends if you sleep well the night before. Some days if you want to clean the house you may have to “borrow” spoons from tomorrow. You may know that tomorrow you will be wiped out if you clean the house. Taking care of yourself, and your spoons are essential. Figuring out how much energy you have for a day can help you have a better and productive day. It can help you visually to know what tasks will take more energy. It can help you plan your day out. If you have a doctor’s appt that day, you know that you won’t have enough spoons to do laundry and cleaning that day. It may help reduce the anxiety in your life, or It could help you to tell your significant other that “hey, tomorrow is a really busy day, and I know I will not be up to making dinner, can you help me out?” It may reduce arguments as well if you can plan your day out in advance.

I am proud of my daughter!! She realizes that taking care of yourself is a priority if you want to have a good day. This exercise may help you with anxiety, frustration, anger, or any other feeling you or somebody in your life may have. It can help visually explain to others how you are feeling and why you don’t have energy throughout the day.

Do you think this could help you in your life? Would it bring the stress level down knowing you won’t have to do everything in a day? Let me know in the comments. I would love to hear if it can help you.

A New Year, A New You?

I was just looking at my email and I noticed that the theme from the senders is 2020 sucks, and we need to get to 2021 so we can have a better life!

Yes, 2020 has been hard! People have lost jobs, can’t afford their bills & groceries, and some have even lost loved ones. It’s not fair! It sucks! I agree but if we stay in this mindset we will not have a fantastic 2021!

Look, my hubby couldn’t get another job during the first recession after the company that he was working for went public and sold their company. We went 9 months before he finally another job in a different state. We had to ask his parents for money so we could move our household.

After being in the new state he got laid off again! Luckily I was working then.

I quickly learned that being positive can have an impact on your life. You can still think positive thoughts, raise your vibration, and change your mindset to think and see the positive in your life.

One thing this year you can do is to is not make New Year’s resolutions that you know that can’t be fulfilled. To start any goal is to change your mindset. Write down what it is that you want to change. Write down your WHY. If you write down your WHY and explore it, you will have a better experience and will be able to achieve your goal.

Write down your specific goal. Writing out I want to lose weight is not a specific goal. How much weight do you want to lose? How will you lose it? How much exercise will you be able to do each day or the week?

After my brain surgery, I wanted to start to work out again. My first goal was to gain muscle strength that I had lost. I also needed to get my strength up to last half a day. It would have been unrealistic of me to say I wanted to stay awake all day long. I knew I needed my nap in the middle of the day.  I was lucky that I found someone that I still follow to this day that was offering Pilates workouts free for 5 days. I tried to do a little of her exercises each day. Some of the moves hurt my head and I knew I couldn’t do those exercises.

At least 2 times a week I tried to walk around the block. I started by just going down the street and coming back home until I could go further and further each week. Before I knew it I was walking out of our neighborhood and down the street. At first, it was really slow. I had to stop a lot and stretch my back but I finally made my goal a couple of months after my surgery.

Being realistic in my goals was the key to success. I did the same with my meditation and positive affirmation practice. I wrote out my schedule for the morning. I wrote down when would be a good time to sit and meditate and read my positive affirmations. . I included how long I would spend online when I would have my green juice & smoothie, my coffee (decaf), and exercise. I gave myself 15 mins. a day for exercise in the beginning, just to get my body moving.  I also scheduled my laundry day so my husband could bring the clothes downstairs to the garage where the laundry room is. I had to be careful of falling down the stairs so I had to ask my husband for help. . (We have since bought a ranch-style home so I don’t have to worry about stairs anymore.) In the afternoon it was more of things like bills, cleaning the kitchen and preparing & cooking dinner.

Finally have a positive mindset. See yourself achieving your goals. If you want to lose weight, see yourself stronger & at your goal weight. If you want to get that dream job, see yourself at the place you want to work nailing that interview! Add feeling behind your visions. Without happy, positive feelings it will not work. You need to have confidence that you will achieve your goals.

I like Napoleon Hill’s quote, “What the mind of man can conceive and believe, the mind of man can achieve.”

GOT ANXIETY?

Is your anxiety wrecking your life? How do you calm the anxiety down so you can listen to yourself think? Get through a project without being anxious. Do you stay awake all night long thinking about the next day and going through scenarios that something bad is going to happen?   

I was anxious so back that it would turn into full panic attacks. The Pain in my chest hurt so bad, and every time I wondered if I was having a heart attack even though I was in my 30’s. I couldn’t think, I had to tell myself to breathe deep and slow. I had to tell myself that I am safe, there is no danger around me. Sometimes it got so bad that if I was home, I would have to take medicine and lay down. But the problem with that is the medicine made me sleepy so I’d fall asleep. I had 3 kids at home, one being a special need and needed to be watched so he wouldn’t get into things he wasn’t supposed to.

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I watched videos, you tube and listened to podcasts on how to meditate and do breathing exercises to calm my nerves. It has helped immensely. Doing EFT (tapping) has been so helpful as well. Positive affirmations work well for me also.  These tools also helped me while I was grieving after our son had passed away.    https://michelleedwardslifecoach.com/she-builds-people-up-because-she-knows-what-it-is-like-to-be-torn-down/

Now I help clients to manage anxiety, I give homework to find the source (or sources) of why you have anxiety, and work through the situation, and then I give them the tools to go through the steps on their own when they are alone.  

If you want to find out why you keep having anxiety, and/or a monkey mind that won’t shut off, I have appointments available to help you.  

Send me an email and we can discuss your options!!  

Live your life the way you have always dreamed of living it!! Take back Control of your life, and find those dreams and make them happen!!!  

Change In the New Year, Change Your Thinking

It’s that time of year again when everyone wants to start new year’s resolutions. Then after a few weeks they forget about them, or think it’s too hard to continue.  

How can you be successful when wanting to have a new year’s resolution? What do you need to be successful? 

First, Let’s think differently. Let’s call it an intention and not a resolution.  

According to the Mirriam-Webster Dictionary (a New Year’s) resolution is defined as: a promise to do something differently in the new year.

Intention is defined in the Mirriam-Webster Dictionary as: the thing that you plan to do or achieve: an aim or purpose. 

How do we achieve a goal that we want to do for the New Year? I have several steps that I personally have applied to my goals, and they have worked for me.

First, write down what you want to start. If it is not written down it will not count. You have to state your Intention. What is it you want to achieve? Why do you want to achieve it? And finally, how are you going to achieve it? Writing it down is sort of a contract with yourself. You will be able to see clearly what your intention is.

Writing down the why and how will mentally prepare you to start your intention and achieve it. You can clearly see a roadmap while writing it all down. If you focus on it mentally you will be able to feel it emotionally.  

If you feel it emotionally you will be able to achieve it better than saying to yourself what it is that you want to achieve. Your brain will be able to make sense to what it is you want and it will be easier to adapt to the new skill that you want to do. 

 You can change your thought patterns and your beliefs by becoming conscious of your unconscious thoughts and behaviors. 

Then you can choose to experience more positive emotions and less negative ones. 

Second, Meditate. Keeping calm will help you keep focus. It will help you stay in the present moment and not the past or the future. 

Third, Keep your thoughts in the Here and NOW! If you feel yourself thinking about the past and how you had failed, direct yourself to think about NOW and what you want to achieve!  Envision your goal. Do you want to lose weight? Think about what you will look like after a few months of working out and changing your eating patterns.

You have the power to control your own mind, a power that has been withheld for your entire life and it’s time to take your power back. 

Next month, on my blog I am going to write on how you can stay in the Present and what to do when your thoughts keep going to the past, or the future.  

How to Survive the Holiday’s during grief

For me, Christmas is really hard since we lost our son to cancer. He loved Christmas! As soon as the ads would come in he’d circle everything! He had to biggest smile you could imagine!

Now I just have the memories. How do I, even you, get thru the Holidays without that loved one, and just a memory?

First, Meditation! Sit and send LOVE to yourself. Send LOVE to your heart. Send LOVE to your loved one.

Second, It’s ok to grieve. There is no timetable when we need to be “over” grieving! I was watching a Hallmark Christmas movie with a woman with 2 kids that lost her husband, and the kid’s dad. She moves back to the town near her mom thinking it would be good for them. The mom pushes them all to decorate for Christmas, and to celebrate Christmas even though she keeps insisting she is not ready! The mom finally gets fed up with the pushback and says “It’s been 2 ( or3?) years since he died! You need to celebrate Christmas!! I turned it off after that! The lady is heartbroken and needs to grieve. She needs support from her family. She doesn’t need someone to tell her to get “over” it! I was told to decorate for Christmas after my son passed away. I didn’t want to! It was horrible enough to not have him there but to decorate would bring up all kinds of emotions! My friend told me to do it for my other 2 kids. They deserve to have decorations. She was right, they did deserve it. We deserved new traditions as well as the old traditions. We were a new family unit of 4 now instead of 5. We needed to find out what we all liked and loved again about the Holiday. We went slow and small. We tried to make it special but we talked about our son, their brother, as well. We didn’t shut him out. We let him in. It’s ok to be sad and grieve. Don’t push it away. It will fester and you will have bigger problems ahead mentally.

When my brother died in my first year of community college and my younger sister was in High School my mom pulled away from us. I remember years later when my younger sister said “it was like we weren’t even there!” She said she wanted to scream We are still living!!! I vowed not to let that happen to my kids. I wanted to be there for them as well. It sucks! It really does! But live in the Present Moment and give love to your loved ones. Slowly it will get better! It will never be the same, but it will get better.

If you are emotionally and/or physically drained ask people for help. We don’t have to be superheroes all of the time. We can rest and take care of ourselves physically. Take an Epsom salt bath with lighted candles. Buy a new book or find an old book that you love, and want to read again.

I love journaling and meditation, and also EFT (Tapping). This is a tremendous help to get through the hard days. I love having Tea with lavender or Rose in it. I have 2 rose quartz that I love putting on my chest while I meditate. For so long I always took care of others and neglected myself. It was my time now.

If you are worried about the future. Start watching your thoughts and bring them back to the present. Enjoy the time right now. Focus on what is in front of you, and who is in front of you. Don’t judge yourself when you need to remind yourself again to stay in the present moment. Be kind and gentle with yourself. You are retraining your brain from years of worrying about the future.

You and your family deserve time to live in the present with joy and love. Give yourself that gift. It doesn’t even have to be wrapped.

I wish everyone a wonderful holiday season filled with Love, Light, Happiness, and Peace. Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to heal. You deserve it.

Walk In The Light Instead Of Darkness

The Universe is always supporting me. Even in the times of darkness. I try to swim but the waves engulf me. I rise above them to draw in a breath. The waves rise higher to drown me. I rise higher. I am Life. I am supported by the Universe. The Universe and I are one. We belong together. 

I was called here to shine my light on the world. I am drawn to see the positive in the things people see as negative. I am drawn towards the Light. I AM Special. I AM LOVE.  I am happiness. 

I keep believing in that over and over again. 

Darkness consumes me. I can’t see the light. I struggle. I am scared. It blocks me. I feel defeated. I want to give up. There is a tingling in my mind. Don’t give up it says! I am the Light, I am here!  

Stop struggling! You are the Light! The light is within you! Don’t you see?  

Go within. Don’t you see it? THERE in your HEART! You are Love. That’s the freedom. 

Stop struggling! That’s the answer! Slow down and look inward. The Light and Love have been there the whole time!  

The darkness begins to recede. Not too fast. I have too much work to do. I take it slow. There are many gifts to open to see what’s there. It’s overwhelming. I want to hide. But I can’t. The work needs to be done.  

I take it slowly. One day at a time. No, one moment at a time. My friends are my journal, affirmations and meditations. I start to do Tapping (EFT). These are the tools I need. Songs and books with meaning and hope. Songs and books with words that I need to hear. Words that I need at the time to keep me in the light. Words that keep me out of the darkness.  

I have HOPE. I start to dream. The fog and darkness start to lift.  

OH, The Light!! On my face! Hello old Friend. It warms my face, my hands and my heart!  

Maybe I can do this! It’s possible. My tools, my Angels and the Universe. My Fairies. My friends that only I can feel. 

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!