How to start to feel fulfilled

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I did a meditation today where you release the old, and the past, that no longer serve you. I thought of Hunger Games where Katniss has her dress on and it slowly lights up with fire. I thought of the “old” that started at my feet and let the fire go up to my head. The “old” was black ash that fell and I no longer need it. I am the fire girl! I am ready to move forward!

This is a time to start thinking about new. How do you want to live your life? Do you want to keep playing small? Do you want to move ahead in your life? Are you tired of the same old life?

Are you ready to reclaim your power? What do you want in your life? Is there something you have always thought about that you have always wanted to do but don’t believe you can do it? It’s time to DREAM and reclaim your life. Step forward, and put down some stepping stones for you to have a fulfilled life.

I have been able to help clients to benefit from developing greater self-awareness, and mindfulness. By teaching you the power to direct your
own inner voice, choose better-feeling emotions, and make better decisions by feeling empowered to identify any beliefs that are limiting. and what you want to create in your life.

As my neurologist surgeon says:

Do Epic Shit!!!!

Send me an email if you are ready to Move Forward!


Is your anxiety wrecking your life? How do you calm the anxiety down so you can listen to yourself think? Get through a project without being anxious. Do you stay awake all night long thinking about the next day and going through scenarios that something bad is going to happen?   

I was anxious so back that it would turn into full panic attacks. The Pain in my chest hurt so bad, and every time I wondered if I was having a heart attack even though I was in my 30’s. I couldn’t think, I had to tell myself to breathe deep and slow. I had to tell myself that I am safe, there is no danger around me. Sometimes it got so bad that if I was home, I would have to take medicine and lay down. But the problem with that is the medicine made me sleepy so I’d fall asleep. I had 3 kids at home, one being a special need and needed to be watched so he wouldn’t get into things he wasn’t supposed to.

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I watched videos, you tube and listened to podcasts on how to meditate and do breathing exercises to calm my nerves. It has helped immensely. Doing EFT (tapping) has been so helpful as well. Positive affirmations work well for me also.  These tools also helped me while I was grieving after our son had passed away.

Now I help clients to manage anxiety, I give homework to find the source (or sources) of why you have anxiety, and work through the situation, and then I give them the tools to go through the steps on their own when they are alone.  

If you want to find out why you keep having anxiety, and/or a monkey mind that won’t shut off, I have appointments available to help you.  

Send me an email and we can discuss your options!!  

Live your life the way you have always dreamed of living it!! Take back Control of your life, and find those dreams and make them happen!!!  

Change In the New Year, Change Your Thinking

It’s that time of year again when everyone wants to start new year’s resolutions. Then after a few weeks they forget about them, or think it’s too hard to continue.  

How can you be successful when wanting to have a new year’s resolution? What do you need to be successful? 

First, Let’s think differently. Let’s call it an intention and not a resolution.  

According to the Mirriam-Webster Dictionary (a New Year’s) resolution is defined as: a promise to do something differently in the new year.

Intention is defined in the Mirriam-Webster Dictionary as: the thing that you plan to do or achieve: an aim or purpose. 

How do we achieve a goal that we want to do for the New Year? I have several steps that I personally have applied to my goals, and they have worked for me.

First, write down what you want to start. If it is not written down it will not count. You have to state your Intention. What is it you want to achieve? Why do you want to achieve it? And finally, how are you going to achieve it? Writing it down is sort of a contract with yourself. You will be able to see clearly what your intention is.

Writing down the why and how will mentally prepare you to start your intention and achieve it. You can clearly see a roadmap while writing it all down. If you focus on it mentally you will be able to feel it emotionally.  

If you feel it emotionally you will be able to achieve it better than saying to yourself what it is that you want to achieve. Your brain will be able to make sense to what it is you want and it will be easier to adapt to the new skill that you want to do. 

 You can change your thought patterns and your beliefs by becoming conscious of your unconscious thoughts and behaviors. 

Then you can choose to experience more positive emotions and less negative ones. 

Second, Meditate. Keeping calm will help you keep focus. It will help you stay in the present moment and not the past or the future. 

Third, Keep your thoughts in the Here and NOW! If you feel yourself thinking about the past and how you had failed, direct yourself to think about NOW and what you want to achieve!  Envision your goal. Do you want to lose weight? Think about what you will look like after a few months of working out and changing your eating patterns.

You have the power to control your own mind, a power that has been withheld for your entire life and it’s time to take your power back. 

Next month, on my blog I am going to write on how you can stay in the Present and what to do when your thoughts keep going to the past, or the future.  

How to Survive the Holiday’s during grief

For me, Christmas is really hard since we lost our son to cancer. He loved Christmas! As soon as the ads would come in he’d circle everything! He had to biggest smile you could imagine!

Now I just have the memories. How do I, even you, get thru the Holidays without that loved one, and just a memory?

First, Meditation! Sit and send LOVE to yourself. Send LOVE to your heart. Send LOVE to your loved one.

Second, It’s ok to grieve. There is no timetable when we need to be “over” grieving! I was watching a Hallmark Christmas movie with a woman with 2 kids that lost her husband, and the kid’s dad. She moves back to the town near her mom thinking it would be good for them. The mom pushes them all to decorate for Christmas, and to celebrate Christmas even though she keeps insisting she is not ready! The mom finally gets fed up with the pushback and says “It’s been 2 ( or3?) years since he died! You need to celebrate Christmas!! I turned it off after that! The lady is heartbroken and needs to grieve. She needs support from her family. She doesn’t need someone to tell her to get “over” it! I was told to decorate for Christmas after my son passed away. I didn’t want to! It was horrible enough to not have him there but to decorate would bring up all kinds of emotions! My friend told me to do it for my other 2 kids. They deserve to have decorations. She was right, they did deserve it. We deserved new traditions as well as the old traditions. We were a new family unit of 4 now instead of 5. We needed to find out what we all liked and loved again about the Holiday. We went slow and small. We tried to make it special but we talked about our son, their brother, as well. We didn’t shut him out. We let him in. It’s ok to be sad and grieve. Don’t push it away. It will fester and you will have bigger problems ahead mentally.

When my brother died in my first year of community college and my younger sister was in High School my mom pulled away from us. I remember years later when my younger sister said “it was like we weren’t even there!” She said she wanted to scream We are still living!!! I vowed not to let that happen to my kids. I wanted to be there for them as well. It sucks! It really does! But live in the Present Moment and give love to your loved ones. Slowly it will get better! It will never be the same, but it will get better.

If you are emotionally and/or physically drained ask people for help. We don’t have to be superheroes all of the time. We can rest and take care of ourselves physically. Take an Epsom salt bath with lighted candles. Buy a new book or find an old book that you love, and want to read again.

I love journaling and meditation, and also EFT (Tapping). This is a tremendous help to get through the hard days. I love having Tea with lavender or Rose in it. I have 2 rose quartz that I love putting on my chest while I meditate. For so long I always took care of others and neglected myself. It was my time now.

If you are worried about the future. Start watching your thoughts and bring them back to the present. Enjoy the time right now. Focus on what is in front of you, and who is in front of you. Don’t judge yourself when you need to remind yourself again to stay in the present moment. Be kind and gentle with yourself. You are retraining your brain from years of worrying about the future.

You and your family deserve time to live in the present with joy and love. Give yourself that gift. It doesn’t even have to be wrapped.

I wish everyone a wonderful holiday season filled with Love, Light, Happiness, and Peace. Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to heal. You deserve it.

Walk In The Light Instead Of Darkness

The Universe is always supporting me. Even in the times of darkness. I try to swim but the waves engulf me. I rise above them to draw in a breath. The waves rise higher to drown me. I rise higher. I am Life. I am supported by the Universe. The Universe and I are one. We belong together. 

I was called here to shine my light on the world. I am drawn to see the positive in the things people see as negative. I am drawn towards the Light. I AM Special. I AM LOVE.  I am happiness. 

I keep believing in that over and over again. 

Darkness consumes me. I can’t see the light. I struggle. I am scared. It blocks me. I feel defeated. I want to give up. There is a tingling in my mind. Don’t give up it says! I am the Light, I am here!  

Stop struggling! You are the Light! The light is within you! Don’t you see?  

Go within. Don’t you see it? THERE in your HEART! You are Love. That’s the freedom. 

Stop struggling! That’s the answer! Slow down and look inward. The Light and Love have been there the whole time!  

The darkness begins to recede. Not too fast. I have too much work to do. I take it slow. There are many gifts to open to see what’s there. It’s overwhelming. I want to hide. But I can’t. The work needs to be done.  

I take it slowly. One day at a time. No, one moment at a time. My friends are my journal, affirmations and meditations. I start to do Tapping (EFT). These are the tools I need. Songs and books with meaning and hope. Songs and books with words that I need to hear. Words that I need at the time to keep me in the light. Words that keep me out of the darkness.  

I have HOPE. I start to dream. The fog and darkness start to lift.  

OH, The Light!! On my face! Hello old Friend. It warms my face, my hands and my heart!  

Maybe I can do this! It’s possible. My tools, my Angels and the Universe. My Fairies. My friends that only I can feel.