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I graduated from her Business School last year. I started my Life Coach Website because of the classes she and her team taught. It is highly technical. And they teach a lot on the business side. Her program is only open 1x per year! And GUESS WHAT?! It’s open right now!!

Check it out!! And you’re welcome! 😉

Bring the Practice of self-care into your life

I can’t believe it’s June already! I have been home from our vacation for 3 weeks and I haven’t been able to do much on the business side.

The day before leaving I ended up at the Doctors office to get an antibiotic for an infection. What a horrible time for it to happen! The whole trip I was tired and achy. I didn’t sleep well either.

Seeing my son and his girlfriend and their 3 kitties and being in Colorado again was wonderful! It was only 60 degrees, and zero humidity vs Florida being high humidity and very hot. I was happy to see the mountains again, and seeing the big tall trees! It brought me joy.

Getting home I went into survival mode. I really thought that the achiness would never go away! All I could do is sleep, get up only to do the laundry, and then went back to rest. Trying to get back into my routine of meditation, and EFT Tapping, and making healthy easy meals. I stayed hydrated. I took my vitamins and took Epsom salt baths for the achiness.

Seeing the same care that I kept pulling The Starseed Oracle that says Deep Cellular Healing. The booklet included says: “If you draw this card you’re being called to focus on your healing in practical ways. To prioritize your health. To be kind and tender to your miraculous body.”   It also says to treat yourself with tender care. Put yourself first and nourish yourself.

When I was a young mom of 3 I thought it was selfish to put myself first. The kids and my husband were always put first. If I did put myself first, I felt selfish. I felt when things often went wrong it was my fault.

When I was in therapy, I had to face the fact that was not true. I had to look into the reason why I thought it was selfish to put myself first.

A lot of it was my family growing up, and what we were told. I felt guilty if I did something for myself growing up. It wasn’t that I didn’t include others in my plan. It felt like it was more of jealousy from my sisters and mom. During therapy, I struggled with the concept to put myself first. Not only would I be more joyful to be around but the kids started to not get on my nerves as much. I started out doing little things just by myself. I’d take a walk or a bath. The older the kids got it was easier to do things by myself because they didn’t need the constant care that required when they were younger.

It was that guilt since getting home from vacation that kept surfacing and I had to keep meditating, and Tapping, and journaling to feel like I was in a place of love, and peace with myself because I was taking care of myself.

If you are in a place where you want to feel healthier but past memories or feelings are surfacing please don’t push them away. Try to understand the meaning behind the memories. Bring joy, and peace into your life. Ask yourself What Conscious thought can I choose today? Joy? Forgiveness? Love? What can I do today to bring forth more peaceful energy?

I know it’s hard when you aren’t feeling well. I certainly wanted to rage at my husband but it isn’t his fault I am feeling frail. That’s why I meditated and did my Tapping and journaling. I have to accept that it’s okay to be quiet right now and not doing things like exercising. It can set me back if I push myself.

The other day I took a 1/2 mile walk instead of a mile. I really wanted to push myself to do that last lap around the neighborhood, but I knew what would happen if I did push myself what would the rest of the day look like, and tomorrow for that matter? Personally, I didn’t value being in pain again. I didn’t want to set myself back again. If you aren’t well it’s ok to cut yourself some slack if you can’t exercise. Don’t shame or guilt yourself because you didn’t do that last ½ mile. Or do 20 minutes of Pilates.  Practice Grace over guilt.

Things to do for self care:

Put yourself first, slow down, nourish yourself-mentally and physically. Stay hydrated. Avoid lots of caffeine. And love yourself. If you fight your body with hate and anger you will not get healthier. Show yourself, and your body and mind, compassion and love. No matter what stage you are in right now, you will get healthier, with time, love, compassion, and understanding. Be kind to yourself, and treat yourself like you would treat a friend. You are nice to your friends let’s be nice to our bodies as well. Our bodies and minds are our friends!! Treat them like it.

Comment below what are some of the steps you take to nourish yourself?

I will be on vacation for a bit….

Hi All,

At a time of vaccinations are increasing we are actually going to go see our son!! We haven’t seen him for 2 years!

This Past Mother’s Day which in the USA was on May 9, 2021, I was not depressed because I haven’t been able to travel to see either one of my kids. My birthday is May 13 and I always fly to NYC to spend it with my daughter for about 4 days. Now she is married and I don’t know if we will continue the tradition.

But this year my hubby suggested flying to see our son in Colorado! We want to get away from the heat and humidity that we have here in South Florida. It will be wonderful to have cold weather (!) and to be able to wear sweaters! We can’t wait!! I will post pictures when I get back.

Also at the top of my blog on the main page is the link for my newsletter. Scroll down to the bottom and sign up. I have been getting a lot of comments asking about my newsletter. I will be talking more in-depth in the newsletters about the subjects of my blogging here.

I will be back online on May 20, 2021. Hope everyone has a terrific week and THANK YOU so much for reading and commenting on my blog!!! I so appreciate it!! You all are fantastic!!

How to describe Chronic Illness using Spoon Theory

Spoon Theory? Have you ever heard of it?

I hadn’t until my 20 something daughter texts me to say she was going to take a nap so she can conserve her spoons.

My son and I both replied “spoons? lol”

Later she texts back to tell us to look up Spoon Theory. If you have a chronic illness, auto-immune illness, autism, anxiety, depression, chronic fatigue syndrome, and MORE understanding the spoon theory can help others understand your illness and the effect it can have on your life that others take for granted. For instance, not able to make it through the day with the energy that you have, something people that don’t have a chronic illness rarely have a problem with. They have an abundance of energy and don’t think about conserving their energy to get things done throughout the day.

The person that came up with this theory has Lupus. Her friend wanted to know even though she had been to doctors appts. and drove her around for errands. She was shocked that her friend didn’t understand how she felt every day. They were at a restaurant and she just grabbed spoons and gave them to her. She said now let’s talk about your day. She started to take her spoons away after each activity. Her friend was disappointed. Her friend wanted to keep the spoons but she said NO! I didn’t have a choice with my health and now you don’t have a choice with your spoons!

If you want to read about it more you can read it here

Let’s say you have a thyroid condition with depression and anxiety (like me). You are given 12 spoons a day to spend on each activity that you do throughout your day.

You wake up and get out of bed could cost you 1 spoon.

Taking a shower: washing your body and hair, putting on lotion after the shower, AND getting dressed could cost you 2-3 spoons. I usually skip blow drying my hair and makeup. It will take away more spoons.

Now you are down to 10 spoons. Next is eating breakfast and taking your medicine.

That’s another 2 spoons.

My cat needs to be played with as well. And fed. I have to take him outside as well. He visits his (our) neighbors. I follow him around the back yards. I’m hoping everyone has their curtains closed and not see us so I don’t have to talk to them. That takes energy from me as well. Not that I don’t love talking to my neighbors, it’s just on certain days that I didn’t sleep well it’s tiring to stand there and talk. That could cost me 3 spoons!

Now I am down to 5 spoons and it’s not even noon yet! This is when you start planning your day out for the rest of the 5 spoons. Do I have a frozen meal for dinner that I can put in the oven before my hubby gets home from work? What about laundry? Folding and putting the laundry away. What other chores that I have to do or can I put off for the next day?

Now you are down to 8 spoons. Luckily for me, I work from my home office and I can sit and meditate and gain back some energy. In the article, her friend gets down to her last spoon. They discuss making dinner and crashing, or order take out which you don’t have the energy to drive to go get it? Her friend says to make soup and call it a day. She is then left with zero spoons. None. Zilch.

Some days may be better than other days. It also depends if you sleep well the night before. Some days if you want to clean the house you may have to “borrow” spoons from tomorrow. You may know that tomorrow you will be wiped out if you clean the house. Taking care of yourself, and your spoons are essential. Figuring out how much energy you have for a day can help you have a better and productive day. It can help you visually to know what tasks will take more energy. It can help you plan your day out. If you have a doctor’s appt that day, you know that you won’t have enough spoons to do laundry and cleaning that day. It may help reduce the anxiety in your life, or It could help you to tell your significant other that “hey, tomorrow is a really busy day, and I know I will not be up to making dinner, can you help me out?” It may reduce arguments as well if you can plan your day out in advance.

I am proud of my daughter!! She realizes that taking care of yourself is a priority if you want to have a good day. This exercise may help you with anxiety, frustration, anger, or any other feeling you or somebody in your life may have. It can help visually explain to others how you are feeling and why you don’t have energy throughout the day.

Do you think this could help you in your life? Would it bring the stress level down knowing you won’t have to do everything in a day? Let me know in the comments. I would love to hear if it can help you.

What To Do When You Are Feeling Stuck?

I am meditating with Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfree this week. It’s a free meditation for the week. He has good insights into why we get stuck, or stagnant, in life? How do we help ourselves? One of the reasons why I wanted to be a life coach, and a mindfulness coach was to teach people to stay in the present moment. Being mindful has helped me with my anxiety, depression, and the feeling of “yuckiness”. You know when you feel like you are not good enough, you can’t say or do anything well enough. You just feel like you are stuck in the yuckiness of the feelings from the past.

“I am never stuck when I am in the PRESENT moment” was yesterday’s meditation.

Do you find you are always thinking about the past? Do you critique yourself for what you went thru? What someone had said? I know I had. I still trip up and find myself thinking about the past, but I know how to stop myself and bring myself into the Present moment.

How do you move past that?

-Become aware of your thoughts.
What are you thinking about? Are you being negative about yourself or the situation? Can you change your thinking to be more positive?

-Start to train your mind to think positively. It’s one of the reasons why I like positive affirmations so much. If you can find a few affirmations that you like, and it makes you feel good, say them when you find yourself thinking negative thoughts.

-Envision you’re at a train station and the train is coming but it’s not the train you want. Do you get on it anyway? Of course not.

Now think about that same train that is a negative thought. Let the train go by without jumping onto it. Let go of your thoughts, breathe, say your positive affirmation(s), and let the thought go. Just like letting the train go by. You’re letting the negative thought go by. Send Peace into your heart. Then send love into your heart. Breathe and focus on the good feelings you get when you practice sending Peace and Love into your heart.

Once you get used to the practice it gets easier. You have been thinking negative thoughts for so long that you have to practice thinking positive thoughts now. You are replacing one thought (negative) with another (positive).  

Once I started to practice this method I started noticing more things going on around me. I noticed I was not anxious as much. I noticed how beautiful the trees were. I started to notice people being nicer to me. Not that I wasn’t being nice, I was just in my head with my anxiety and negative thoughts.

You will notice that you are thinking positively about the future. You aren’t looking back as much. You may start to notice that you’re more creative. You may notice you are not so mad or angry as well. You may not react fast when someone cuts you off on the freeway.

The last thing I want to tell you is that you are doing a great job in life! It doesn’t matter what you had done in the past. If you are here and you are reading this then you are ready to make Peace with your past.

You are a terrific person! You are trying so hard. Sometimes you need help, and that is ok! Ask for help. Forgive yourself! Let Love and Peace into your heart.

Don’t forget to sign up for my newsletter where I go into more depth about the topics I write about on my blog. If you need help with mindfulness ask me for help. I can work with you to bring Peace into your life.  

Email me at michelleedwardslifecoach@gmail.com