A New Year, A New You?

I was just looking at my email and I noticed that the theme from the senders is 2020 sucks, and we need to get to 2021 so we can have a better life!

Yes, 2020 has been hard! People have lost jobs, can’t afford their bills & groceries, and some have even lost loved ones. It’s not fair! It sucks! I agree but if we stay in this mindset we will not have a fantastic 2021!

Look, my hubby couldn’t get another job during the first recession after the company that he was working for went public and sold their company. We went 9 months before he finally another job in a different state. We had to ask his parents for money so we could move our household.

After being in the new state he got laid off again! Luckily I was working then.

I quickly learned that being positive can have an impact on your life. You can still think positive thoughts, raise your vibration, and change your mindset to think and see the positive in your life.

One thing this year you can do is to is not make New Year’s resolutions that you know that can’t be fulfilled. To start any goal is to change your mindset. Write down what it is that you want to change. Write down your WHY. If you write down your WHY and explore it, you will have a better experience and will be able to achieve your goal.

Write down your specific goal. Writing out I want to lose weight is not a specific goal. How much weight do you want to lose? How will you lose it? How much exercise will you be able to do each day or the week?

After my brain surgery, I wanted to start to work out again. My first goal was to gain muscle strength that I had lost. I also needed to get my strength up to last half a day. It would have been unrealistic of me to say I wanted to stay awake all day long. I knew I needed my nap in the middle of the day.  I was lucky that I found someone that I still follow to this day that was offering Pilates workouts free for 5 days. I tried to do a little of her exercises each day. Some of the moves hurt my head and I knew I couldn’t do those exercises.

At least 2 times a week I tried to walk around the block. I started by just going down the street and coming back home until I could go further and further each week. Before I knew it I was walking out of our neighborhood and down the street. At first, it was really slow. I had to stop a lot and stretch my back but I finally made my goal a couple of months after my surgery.

Being realistic in my goals was the key to success. I did the same with my meditation and positive affirmation practice. I wrote out my schedule for the morning. I wrote down when would be a good time to sit and meditate and read my positive affirmations. . I included how long I would spend online when I would have my green juice & smoothie, my coffee (decaf), and exercise. I gave myself 15 mins. a day for exercise in the beginning, just to get my body moving.  I also scheduled my laundry day so my husband could bring the clothes downstairs to the garage where the laundry room is. I had to be careful of falling down the stairs so I had to ask my husband for help. . (We have since bought a ranch-style home so I don’t have to worry about stairs anymore.) In the afternoon it was more of things like bills, cleaning the kitchen and preparing & cooking dinner.

Finally have a positive mindset. See yourself achieving your goals. If you want to lose weight, see yourself stronger & at your goal weight. If you want to get that dream job, see yourself at the place you want to work nailing that interview! Add feeling behind your visions. Without happy, positive feelings it will not work. You need to have confidence that you will achieve your goals.

I like Napoleon Hill’s quote, “What the mind of man can conceive and believe, the mind of man can achieve.”

Have less stress according to a cat

During the unsettling time of COVID and the lockdown, something good came out of it. We bought a house in July around the corner from our rental.  Since moving to Southern Florida 3 years ago, we decided to put our roots down. Having stress can be in many forms whether it’s from working at home, not able to go out like we did before, or moving. Watching the cats settle into the new house taught me some valuable lessons which I highlight below, and reduce my overall stress.

Naps: My cat was happy when he got a nap with me. Even if you set the timer for 20 minutes can help with fatigue. Rest is essential when you get grumpy. Removing yourself from the situation can help with the anger, or stress, that you are feeling.  

Schedule: Sticking to a schedule is essential as well. We went to bed early every night. Meditating, and exercising in the morning helped me feel better and less stressed. Keeping up on our green juice every morning once I unpacked the juicer helped with the fatigue. I felt ungrounded when I didn’t meditate or say my daily affirmations. It took me a while to work it into the schedule because I wanted to unpack the house first. When I set up my office space, I set up my altar in there too. Once I had my own space I started to feel safe and worked meditation into my morning routine.  Exercise is essential for me as well. After the move, I would take a walk in the morning for as long as my body wanted to. I didn’t overdo it. Some mornings I only walked 10 minutes. Unpacking was an exercise in itself!  I now do my Pilates and walk on alternating days. Having a routine helped the cats as well. They crave routines as much as I do. They know what to expect when I stick to a schedule.

Play: Play helps relieve stress that you didn’t even know you were holding onto! Every night before bed the cat and I would play Tag (yes he plays Tag with me! ) and then we would play with the laser. We would run up and down the hall having a blast. It helped both of us sleep better at night.  It helped both of us unwind from the day.

Nurture: Our chiropractor reminded us that we needed to take a break from unpacking on the weekends. She reminded us that we should just chill, watch a movie, or Netflix.  She reminded us we would be in the house for life, and we would have time to get it perfect. Comfort yourself in the only you know-how; the work will slow down enough for you to see whatever you are going through and will work itself out in time. The cats were happy because they could lay with us and relax as well.

Indulge: When you bring harmony and balance into your life it helps with your heart rate and helps you feel relaxed. Relax in a nice bath with healing essential oils and mineral salt. Go for a healing massage. Get a manicure and a pedicure. Breathe deep and let your concerns drift away. Here in Southern Florida, we are lucky that we can do these things again while wearing a mask. I have been lucky to not experience a lot of people while at the spa. My massage therapist only allows 2 clients into her business at a time, and I am happy that she puts in the effort into keeping us all safe.

Garden: Our cat loves to go in our little back yard to relax and enjoy the sunshine. While tending to the earth helped me release the stress. I would breathe deep and let the sunshine take my worries away.

Fuzz The Cat